It never got me stop having new thoughts about it as I grow up.
I wonder how many stages are there for a friendship to be forever.
Though people used to say friendship forever, how many friendships that are really true, intimate and strong that lasts for life?
As a kid till grown up to a teenager in secondary school, friends are people around you that are meet you almost everyday in school and tuition. They chat with you about your homework, sports, and hobby, discuss about our confessions and our dreams.We laugh and cry together. Even anger won't last for 10 freaking minutes. Everything seems so naturally well.
When its the time to go college and university, we start meeting new friends, which is an eye opener to different values people hold, especially if you study at outstation which means totally different growing environment. We started to have groupies and choose to mix with people of similar interests. Rumours are just daily dose of vitamins. Then we realise how important to have friends that have grew up together in the same environment, the bunch of people that always share similar values, boundaries and thoughts. They are The Friends that understand you the best and will always be there for you. Others, they came in our life and walk away. Even you're once close, after some time, they just moved on when they meet people which they feel its more fun to hang out with. Of course, there are also people that came in during our college/ uni life that just get close to somehow, becoming part of the group of The Friend and hopefully they will continue to stay in my life =)
I think I've been pretty good towards friends, I wouldn't really get angry to my friends. Not that I could remember of, but yes once last year, its actually more of disappointment instead, which I've let it go. People who know me well will know that I treat my friends with all my heart and soul. I don't really hope to get the same return because I am just being who I am, its not to have the same attitude of how the way others treat me. Because I believe everyone have different boundaries and thoughts on friendship, so its just a loving-people-that-I-wanna-love attitude, not an equal give and take. Well I have my boundaries too, afterall I'm not Mother Theresa. Feeling that slight disappointment again recently. It's not because you've done anything wrong to me, its just that I thought you are able to be responsible enough for your actions and the way you mix with people that you've chose to mix with recently. Am I putting too high expectation on you? In the end, its just my feeling, you might feel that there's no problem with it. It might be just me, with my conservative mind.
Somehow, I figured that a friendship is pretty similar with the stages of a relationship in some way.
A good video that explains it best:
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